It’s Okay to Be Disappointed on Valentine’s Day

…May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep His love really is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is so great you will never fully understand it. Then you will be filled with the fullness of life and power that comes from God. – Ephesians 3:17-19

This is my Valentine’s Day prayer for all of us.


It’s okay to struggle through this holiday.

It’s okay to feel like you’re out of place.

It’s okay to be a little disappointed.

It’s okay to have hopes and desires.

And it’s okay to find that another year has gone by without the love you’ve been waiting for. Despair is not the end of the story.

The disappointment is not wrong. God is not upset with you. I know without a doubt that He does not want His love to be second-best in your life. But He knows and sees and understands the longings in your heart, and He wants to shape them into Christ-honoring desires.

Still, He wants those desires to be second to the desire for more of Him.

So as we stumble through Valentine’s Day a little lonely and a little unsure of where we’re supposed to be —

Don’t let your past haunt you. Don’t let your future scare you.

Christ loves us so much that He has set a plan in motion specifically for your good. He WILL redeem your past and He WILL make sure your future goes exactly as planned. Nothing can interfere. He has you here, in this place, for a specific reason. It isn’t a punishment or the result of your mistakes. He is bigger than the wrongs you’ve done. Even though there are consequences for our actions, there is also grace. We don’t deserve it, but He wants to give it to us. There is nothing we can do to thwart the plan that is unfolding in our life.

So move forward in freedom, precious one.

God is merciful, and there is a reason why these desires did not come to fruition before now, and there is a reason if He does not place them in your hands until much later in the future.

There is grace and mercy and beauty and lavishness even when He chooses never to give us these things.

It will not be because you aren’t good enough. It will not be because your past is too messy. It will not be because no one could ever love you. That is the enemy talking. We may not fully understand why God does not always allow us to have things we want, but we can know without a doubt that He is good and He gives us good things.

You are not defined by your season in life or your circumstances. He has marvelous things planned specifically for you. They’re not only on their way, some things are already here. Today is here and it was always part of the plan. He will be faithful to continue what He started.

Don’t give up. Keep trusting in His love. Keep searching for it, finding it, and believing it.

7 thoughts on “It’s Okay to Be Disappointed on Valentine’s Day

  1. Lauren C. Moye says:

    I love this and will pin it to my Valentine’s board. I think something that’s very important to note is that even Adam, before the fall of man and in God’s perfect Creation, experienced loneliness. It’s not something to be ashamed of.

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